Whether male or female, it’s probably hard to find operatic heroine who you can relate to. They are either overly sentimental, stupid, cow-eyed, just plain vicious… or all of them!
So, I recommend an 18th century opera (or being pedantic, a cantata generally performed like an opera) about a woman seeking a pre-nuptial agreement… to be allowed to drink lots and lots of coffee.
Balneus 